I was watching Perfect Cut (一切完美 II) last night and I felt truly impacted by this particular episode. I want to mention specifically 2 very meaningful phrases that I learnt from this show. One in English and the other in Mandarin.


"Words should not be hurtful. Use it to say I love you" (sign language involved. My mom, Dominic and I learnt it! Hehe.)


"重话要轻说，坏话要好说，会破坏感情的话最好别说。"


Wow, 2 very simple phrases but how true it is. I got reminded about Pst. Kong's sermons on relationships. I feel that many relationships fail is mainly because of the inability to handle them well instead of a mere lack of love. Most people may think that falling in love is easy. Yes it's true. Falling in love is easy but going into a relationship as a committed couple is not an easy task at all. True love involves genuine care, sacrifice, devotion, time, money, everything in fact! Loving someone is not about loving your partner the way you feel loved but loving him/her the way he/she will feel loved. That is true love.


Communication is one of the essential tools in a relationship. It's one way how we connect to each other soul to soul. However, most people nowadays do not bother to speak tactfully to their partner and most importantly, with love. We may have good intentions but the choice of words we use are often not the best at times. Relationships are strained especially when we fail to control our tongue in the midst of quarrels. In a fit of anger, we may say something we do not mean and the "unintentional words" hurt our partners deep. Words poured out during such situations are often irreversible. They either make or break our partners' hearts. Our tongue is the most deadly instrument of all our body parts. That is why God gave us the Holy Spirit. Speaking in tongues is a form of surrender to God. Giving Him total control of our most deadly instrument.

Isn't it amazing? How complex a relationship can be? However complicated it may be, only through God, true love is magnified.


It's no longer one-ness by design but one-ness by choice.


Though God does not choose our partners, I believe that Brendan and I meeting each other once again is God's work. We were the right people, meeting at the right time and the right place. It was simply the kairos moment and I'm so glad I didn't miss it! =D However, it's definitely by our personal decisions that we make this relationship a successful one. =)


We live in a broken down world, with imperfect people coming in and out of our lives. However, it's through our imperfection that we bring out God's perfect love.


Dear, I'm very confident that we're built to last! =D We may have our ups and downs but I'm so proud we're both learning to love each other more each day. I'm so full of motivation right this very moment and I can't wait to see you later to tell you how much I love you! =D


I LOVE YOU WITH AN EVERLASTING LOVE DARLING!!! =D